How to tackle impostor syndrome

Impostor syndrome is a common experience among counsellors, especially those new to the profession. It’s that nagging feeling of self-doubt and inadequacy, despite evidence of competence and success.

As a mentor, I understand the gravity of impostor syndrome – when students’ futures potentially hang in the balance, it is easy to feel overwhelmed and as though you might not be up to the job.

This guide will explore practical strategies that may be useful for overcoming impostor syndrome and thriving in your counselling career.

How to recognise impostor syndrome

Impostor syndrome often manifests as thoughts such as: “I’m not good enough,” “I don’t belong here,” or “I’m just lucky, not skilled.” It can be triggered by various factors, including comparison with colleagues, fear of failure or unrealistic expectations.

Recognising these thoughts and feelings is the first step in overcoming impostor syndrome.

How to tackle impostor syndrome

1. Normalise your experience

Understand that impostor syndrome is common, even among experienced counsellors. Many successful professionals have grappled with feelings of inadequacy at some point in their careers.

Knowing that you’re not alone can alleviate some of the pressure and stigma associated with what you’re feeling.

2. Challenge negative self-talk

Pay attention to the narrative you tell yourself, and question its validity. When you catch yourself thinking “I’m not good enough”, challenge that thought with evidence of your competence and accomplishments.

Keep a journal of your achievements, positive feedback from students, parents or senior leaders and moments when you felt confident in your abilities. Reflecting on these can counteract negative self-talk.

3. Embrace a growth mindset

Shift your perspective from a fixed to a growth mindset. Instead of seeing challenges as threats to your competence, view them as opportunities for learning and development.

Understand that making mistakes is a natural part of the learning process. Embrace feedback, positive and constructive, as a valuable insight for improvement.

4. Be realistic in your expectations

Acknowledge that perfection is unattainable and that striving for it only fuels impostor syndrome.

Set achievable goals for yourself, professionally and personally. Break larger goals into smaller, more manageable tasks, and celebrate your progress along the way.

Recognise that every counsellor, regardless of experience, has areas for growth and improvement.

5. Seek support and connection

Connect with fellow counsellors, either through formal or informal networks, so that you can share experiences and support one another.

Peer-supervision groups or mentorship programmes can provide a safe space to discuss challenges, seek advice and receive validation. Remember that asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

6. Practise self-compassion

Be kind to yourself, especially during times of self-doubt. Treat yourself with the same empathy and understanding that you extend to your students.

Practise self-care regularly, whether it’s through exercise, mindfulness, hobbies or spending time with loved ones. Cultivate a sense of gratitude for the work you do and the impact you have on others’ lives.

Overcoming impostor syndrome is an ongoing journey that requires self-awareness, resilience and support.

Remember: you are not alone, and your unique contributions make a difference in the lives of your students. Believe in yourself and trust in your abilities.